Gentleness

The Surrender Experiment

This book was a timely read and recommended from a guy I trust a lot. It landed in the middle of a season when I was fit to be tied. Life had kinda thrown a curve ball and like always, I wasn’t expecting it. Like all these moments- we don’t create them, they happen, and our response (I’ve realised) is what truly matters.

The challenge to this ‘surrender experiment’ is simple. Instead of resisting these events, what if they are destined to teach us something about ourselves. What if our reaction is a negative one that reveals more about where our heart is at and is supposed its to push into growth? Hands up – this is exactly what this series of events in my life helped me focus on. Me. I couldn’t control the circumstance but I could work on me.

In truth this has become a fun way to do life, especially in the moments that feel like bad ones. It redefines them in a beautiful way and labels them as moments where God is doing his beautiful character work in our story.

So with my ears tuned into this word surrender for the last 6 months, my ears perked up during our current Women’s bible study. Beth Moore is a content legend. To live is Christ had a week on the fruit of the Spirit; and as she explained the word gentleness in its original context – lo and behold we have the word surrender.

Gentleness isn’t only soft, mild and all the other thoughts that come into our head when we hear it. It means surrender, to lean into the will of God.

I was intrigued as our Pastor taught a recent series and the key text was Matthew 11.

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Matthew 11:28-30

With gentleness fresh in my head from bible study, and life lessons teaching me to surrender to whatever comes my way, this verse took on a different meaning. Check out the root meaning of ‘gentleness’ ⬇️

This concept of living lightly (what our series was called) is wrapped up in surrender. Leaning into life. Trusting. Accepting his dealings with us as good, even when the curve balls come – do we trust the process?

Some things are just simply out of our control. I have been guilty of overthinking the circumstance, trying to rework it or manipulate in some way to make sense of it all. But what if instead of trying to land a better outcome, what if the better outcome is what that event did in me as opposed to around me? The surrender experiment is about accepting life and trusting that ALL things, good and bad, are training and designed to bring something good out of everything. Whilst the book isn’t necessarily Christian based, I couldn’t help but think that everything about it sounded like Jesus and his kingdom way of life.

Do we trust the process of inner work when our outer world is going crazy? Having tried this for the last 6 months I can definitely say it’s a simpler way to do life and dare I say lighter one.

So in light of surrender meaning to give up – I give up trying to sort it all out and I give in once again to the author of it all. He’s convinced me that He can make good out of anything.

So here’s to letting go, leaning into life, living surrendered, living gently just like Jesus.

I challenge you to give it a go!

The 61Exchange

I have recently found myself jumping on board with this movement known as The 61 Exchange.  Started by my beautiful Southern Georgian friend Amy Boland, this incredible collective of real women with real stories is the most inspiring, vulnerable and hope fuelled group you will meet.

WHAT’S IN A NAME?

The name, The 61 Exchange, comes from Isaiah 61:3. That The Lord will give a crown of beauty for ashes and joy for mourning. We want to tell the stories of how Jesus has done this exchange in women’s lives and ultimately point people towards the greatest exchange, the Gospel.

I was blown away when Amy asked me to get involved, and even though we’re figuring out what that looks like with an ocean in between me and the team – I’m in!!!   I love the idea, the concept of sharing our stories to inspire others is something that I am uber passionate about.

I had the privilege this summer, sharing at one of their conferences in Cairo, GA. I had no idea what I was in for. I was meeting everyone on the team for the first time, and placing names and email addresses with faces.   Knowing that it was going to be a weekend of story sharing, I was prepped for talking overload. I knew some of the stories already from the social media posts and was well prepared with tissues close by.  As I listened to girls share their journey so far, I discovered something special about the power of our stories. They invite people into our lives.  They connect us in our humanity – real, honest, open lives for all to see.  And the amazing thing about Christian women, is seeing how beautifully our God meets us where we are and has the power to change our stories. His love and grace intertwines into people’s lives in a beautiful profound way.

In dark days, in horrific circumstances, in hopeless scenarios – there He was in all their journeys.

No story was the same,  because no life is the same.

The thing that I loved the most about so much story sharing, was how easy it was for every woman who attended that conference to identify with at least one other person on stage sharing.

So here’s what I’m asking…… would you join the journey?

Would you share your story? Have you ever sat and thought about the moments that are worth sharing?

Here is the truth – your story matters and somewhere in this world there is a girl who needs to be encouraged by what God has done for you. Because if God can do if for you, He can surely do it for her too.

So how can you join in?

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I would love you to connect in with what God is doing, but most importantly I would love for you as a daughter to be brave, open and vulnerable with your journey so it would spark hope in Him to someone else.

You can do it!